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The Harsh But True Meaning Behind Every "I Don't Have Time"

The Harsh But True Meaning Behind Every "I Don't Have Time"
From Lifehack - November 7, 2017

How often have you heard the line Sorry, I just dont have time in response to you suggesting an activity to a friend or asking for help? Perhaps youve said this yourself to other people. While it could be genuinely true for many, the harsh reality is that its not usually entirely the case.How often have you heard the line Sorry, I just dont have time in response to you suggesting an activity to a friend or asking for help? Perhaps youve said this yourself to other people. While it could be genuinely true for many, the harsh reality is that its not usually entirely the case.

The Real Truth Behind I Dont Have Time

If we get this response, we usually give the person the benefit of the doubtafter all who are we to question how much time they really have? But at the back of our mind, we often wonder if weve just been given a quick and easy excuse. The only reason we do doubt it is because weve most likely given this excuse ourselves at some point. So what can it really mean?

Even though the underlying reasons behind this response can seem harsh, we can all admit that we can relate to at least one of them.

Question the Common Lie

About 90% of the time, if you hear this its most likely a lie. But this isnt going to be shocking to us because we all know it. Yet we usually let it pass without question when someone says it to us. However, instead of dismissing this common lie, perhaps we should consider what it really means for our friendships and relationships with others.

You are a low priority. Is this really the basis of a good relationship with someone if they continually imply that youre not high priority in their life? Relationships take effort on both sides so if youre both using this excuse a lot then it may be time to question it.

You arent getting the respect you deserve. We are all worthy of good relationships with friends, family and loved ones and we deserve respect. Ask yourself why you arent getting that. Do they really value you as an important person in their life?

They cant be truthful with you. A real friend will tell you they have other plans and wont want to lie to you. Theyll go to lengths to make it up to you, arrange another time because they want to spend time with you. If they feel they need to lie then there could be an underlying problem.

The Damage of This Well-Known Lie

Of course, were also guilty of using this excuse. But what does it say about ourselves, our integrity and outlook on the relationships in our life?

Deep down we all know the meaning behind why we say itwhether we hear it from others or use it ourselves. But just because we dont openly admit what it really means, doesnt mean its not having an impact. It gives people an unsaid impression of you that builds up over time and can damage potential close relationships or break close bonds.

Make Time, or Tell the Truth

Tell them its not your priority

Follow up with a reason

Arrange an alternative

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