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The Most Important Interpersonal Skills for a Successful Career

The Most Important Interpersonal Skills for a Successful Career
From Lifehack - October 4, 2017

Gone are the days where we can lock ourselves up in an office and avoid people. More and more companies are going towards open plan spaces and promoting transparency, collective work and communication. As an introvert, one of the biggest challenges Ive had in my career was working with so many people. My type of socializing is to have everyone in one room so we can all read our favourite books without having to talk.Gone are the days where we can lock ourselves up in an office and avoid people. More and more companies are going towards open plan spaces and promoting transparency, collective work and communication. As an introvert, one of the biggest challenges Ive had in my career was working with so many people. My type of socializing is to have everyone in one room so we can all read our favourite books without having to talk.

But thats unrealistic in this world, especially when the current system is set up for extroverts as Susan Cain, the author of the book Quiet, says.

Funnily enough, today, I run retreats, events and workshops and spend days with hundreds of peopletraining many on mindset, leadership and business. If I had known what I know today when it comes to interpersonal skills, especially as an introvert, my life would have been a lot more easier.

Whether youre an introvert or extrovert, if youre someone whos hungry for growth and striving to climb up the ladder, in this post, Ill share with you the most important interpersonal skills you need to have to create not only a successful career but also a fulfilling one.

Awareness of Your Own Voice and Behaviors

Whenever I hear conversations from saving ducks crossing the road to war, crime and economic crisis, I always bring it back to self-awareness. At the end of the day, whether its about career success or major crisis in the world, it always start with ushumans. As humans, we have the power and the advantage to do things other species in the world cant do. And thats self-awarenessbringing it back to the first practical step we can take.

Self-awareness is the weapon of the next generation leaders, the awakened ones and the heart-led way-seers. Its about having the emotional intelligence (EQ) and understanding how our internal reality (values, beliefs and thoughts) can influence our external reality (actions and reactions from others).

Weve been listening to the media, news and others for so long that weve forgotten to listen to our internal voice, gut feeling, intuitive clarity and the connection with God, if you will. So when we start to pay attention to our thoughts, we become self-aware. And when we become self-aware, rather than re-acting, were now presented with choices on how we respond to situations.

As Viktor Frankl said,

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Confidence to Take on Challenges

I see many people going round and round in the vicious cycle of lack of confidence and wanting to achieve goals. I feel that self-confidence is a bit overrated today. Yes we need it for success and yes that will help us create so many opportunities but lets take a pause and go back to the basics.

Where does it come from? Lack of self-confidence can stem from having been programmed since young by others that were not good enough, not fully understanding the task were doing, actively creating stories in our head that are not beneficial for us and not having mastery in that particular area. Most importantly, when we say we dont have the confidence, most of the time were comparing ourselves to someone else by minimising ourselves and putting them on the pedestal.

So what if we forget for a moment, the whole pressure of needing to have the confidence, and rather just focus on the task in front of us and get really good at it? Mastery takes time and mastery takes practice. But by taking action and creating consistent practice, we also develop confidence along the way. Win-win-win? Yes please.

CommunicateThrough Words and Actions

The communication methods weve been taught have gotten us this far. However, were now at a time where people are asking for authenticity, vulnerability and speaking from the heart. This is an opportunity for us to start changing the way we communicate with others so we all can become more real with each other and more connected with our heart. And that communication is not only communicating from words, gestures or tones, its also about communicating energetically.

Its not news that were made of up energy and the vibe the we feel from others is the electromagnetic frequency thats emitted from the heart. Back in 1993, a social science study was done where 4000 meditators gathered to meditate, and there was a 23.3% drop in crime rate in Washington DC.

Overall in the world, there are more people practicing mindfulness meditation now than ever before. More and more people are going to the retreats and jungles. Were becoming more empathetic and were starting to feel more. That means when we meet with others, both virtually and physically, weve already communicated a large chunk of information through our energy before the words are even said.

Listen to Understand

Negotiate and Persuade for a Positive Cause

Lead Yourself First Before Anyone Else

Small Shifts Within Profound Great Shifts Externally

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